Someone I know got herself knocked up for the second time. Actually, nasa 6 or 7 months na siya on the way. This someone is not just any random classmate or friend. Infact, she's my barkada. Nakwento naman nya samin na she has no idea how to tell Tita, her mom na she AGAIN is carrying a little human being inside her tummy - UNMARRIED.
You might think na super manang ko naman mag-react. I know, I know. Girls get knocked up every single day, 3 babies are born every minute, and trust me, I really would like to believe na our youth don't engage in premarital sex and/or they value the sanctity of marriage before going under the sheets and make love. But SADLY, according to UP Population Institute, as cited by mukamo.com (2007), 1 out 4 Filipinos aged 15-24 do engage in sex before marriage. Take note, 3 years ago pa ito. How much more ngayon and in the coming years pa? You might think nanaman na nagmamalinis ako. Nope! I'm 22 years old and I have never engaged in activities which might lead to premarital sex nor the sex itself. For me, sa panahon ngayon, I could say na ACHIEVEMENT ito! Tama?
Anyway, balik tayo sa barkada ko. 2 nights ago, I texted her asking how's the pregnancy going and she replied naman texting back na ok lang daw and hindi daw mashado halata tiyan nya. Tinanong ko rin if alam na ba ni Tita and Tito (who are abroad) na magkakaron na ulit ng bagong member ang family and this is what she texted me:
Sobrang na-upset ako. Actually, nairita ako sakanya ng bongga kase I know this girl. She is one of the matatalinos in class. She would always excel in our subjects, would always raise her hand if may recitation and I know na she's better than having 2 kids with a man who isn't her husband YET! To top it off, she is freakin' unemployed! Ano ba? Naiinis ba ako? Oo naiinis ako! Galit ako? Oo, galit ako. May magagawa ba ako? Wala. Kase buhay nya yon, at walang ibang nagdedesisyon sa mga dapat at hindi nya dapat gawin kundi siya lang.
Isa pang ikinasama ng loob ko, eh yung ginawa nya sa mga magulang nya. Imagine, kung ako yun. Uuwi ako sa Pilipinas, naka-set ang mind ko sa pagbabakasyon ko matapos ang dalawang taon na pagiging OFW sa ibayong dagat. Bonding kasama ang pamilya. Tapos mamukat mukat ko, yung anak ko, buntis at manganganak na? Eh wala yatang normal na tao ang hindi tataas ang BP at aatakihin eh.
Eto lang ang akin. She made a big mistake by getting herself pregnant. She's making a bigger mistake even by not telling it to her parents. Diba? Fine, alam ng sister nya. Pero kase parents are parents. They don't exist para paglaruan at lokohin. Kung hindi kayang respituhin ang mga magulang bilang magulang, at least respituhin sila bilang TAO.. They deserve to know when their daughters are having a baby. Hindi ko sasabihing I never went behind my parents' back kase I did. A LOT OF TIMES! And I'm extremely sorry for doing that sakanila pero definitely, sasabihin ko if I'm in trouble. AND YES, BEING PREGNANT AGAIN, IS TROUBLE!
Arrrgh. Naiinis talaga ako!
1 comments:
repa. tayo lang ang maha-hyblood kung iisipin natin. minsan nakakawalang gana or nakakatamad ng pag-usapan pa yung issue kasi wala, walang sense. she already made her choice. ang nakakadepress lang kasi parang laro-laro lang ang lahat. yung feelings nila tita, yung magiging future ng mga kiddos. parang nananadya na ewan. sheesh.
ang say ko? bahala na sila sa buhay nila. kebs. :))
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